The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. For through wisdom your days will be multiplied, and years will be added to your life.
I have heard many questions floating around the social media and YouTube community lately and I just want to address some of these things here in a Q&A format. I hope that this post will help you get to know me a little bit better and if you want to connect, you’re welcome to join my Instagram Family and comment on some posts over there as well.
So, without further ado, let’s hop into the questions! I just love watching these and I hope you enjoy reading it. I’m thinking about answering some even juicier questions for my lovely supporters over on Patreon and KoFi .
So here we go!
Let’s start with one that I feel has been a very popular question in the Christian community as of late.
Is there a “The One” for everyone out there?
Nope. Let me explain. I believe that if there was only one specific person out there for every single person then the freedom of choice would be revoked. I believe that you meet someone, you fall in love, and you choose that person to do life with. There is something very beautiful about being able to choose your life companion, your spouse. You could be compatible with a couple hundred people out there and probably build a life and it would work out. BUT. You chose this specific person to make it work with. That is something you should feel happy and grateful for, knowing that you had the freedom to choose this path for your life. I think that’s why we’re told in the Bible not to be “unequally yoked”. If our lives were simply laid out and there was only one person for us and that person must be a follower of Christ, then I don’t think the need to speak as if we need to be careful of who choose would’ve been there. It’s obvious that we are free to make that choice and we should be in tune with God and ourselves to know if this other person is on the same page or even in the same book as we are. For example, when I met my husband, I knew we were in the same book so to speak, just not quite on the same page. Pretty soon, we ended up right on the same page though. I touch on this in the next answer too.
Do you think it’s okay for a Christian to date someone of a different denomination?
Yes, as long as your basic beliefs are the same. Do not be unequally yoked. I would not recommend for a Christian to date an Atheist for example. If you can’t bring them to Christ through friendship, then you won’t do it by investing your feelings and time into a relationship either.
Now about being “in the same book” or “on the same page” as your potential spouse, when I met my husband, he was not a “baptized Christian”, but he did believe in God and we attended church together regularly. About a year into dating, before we were engaged, he was officially baptized – this is when I truly started to feel like we were on the same page. The same page with how we wanted our marriage and our future to look. Now, about 6 years after being baptized, we have been married for 4 years and have 2 wonderful babies. He is a wonderful Godly man who seeks the Lord everyday and is constantly in the Word wanting to know as much as he can about what it means to be the head of our household. He is kind, humble, and generous. I am so happy that I chose him to be my husband and our babies “Da-Da”. He leads our household in the ways of the Lord and shows me what it means and feels like to have someone love you for just who you are on a daily basis.
Do you agree with tattoos and/or piercings?
I honestly think they look a bit ridiculous, I’ve never seen a tattoo or a oddly placed piercing make someone look better. I’m not against them but I’m not for them. I think, for women, ear piercings are fine, I have mine pierced and have since I was young. I will probably be piercing my daughters ears for her first birthday. I have never been inclined to get a tattoo. Choosing to harm my own body (and yes, it hurts!) for something that will not look as nice 20 years from now just doesn’t strongly appeal to me. I may get a tiny one, one day… but for now, nah. Most of them look just odd to me… I can appreciate the artwork for the most part… but, I mean, put it on a canvas! I feel like an old bitty saying that but it’s just me and everyone has their own opinion right? I know many people with tattoos and they think nothing of it, it’s really just a personal choice I suppose.
Do you think Home schooling benefits children more than Public schooling?
Yes, I fully believe in homeschooling For The Time Being. I have not actually started yet seeing as my oldest babe is just about to turn two. But my plan is to start working with him everyday on little tasks early. I’ve already been looking at some booklet type things that say they’re for 3-4 year olds, but I believe with some one on one help then he will do wonderfully because he has such an eager to learn spirit about him. I’m excited to watch his little mind and skill set grow.
Do you believe that women should work outside of the home?
I firmly believe that if a woman is married and plans to have children then she should plan to stay home and be the caregiver to those children. If that means living a more simple, minimalistic lifestyle then she should be happy with that. I think that the husband is to work outside the home, or this day in age maybe work from home, and provide the sole/main income for the family. However, I do believe that if the wife can work from home and bring in some income from her hobbies and her passions then that is the best road to go down. Or if the couple together can invest into rental properties or find a way to have a source of income steadily coming in outside a 9-5 job, then that’s good too.
For our family, it works for me to stay home with the babies. I keep the laundry done, the dishes at a minimum, and the house overall tidy and clean. I am also able to work with our toddler on daily instructional tasks and learning exercises, take walks to the park with the kiddos, get some grocery shopping taken care of, and I also work on this blog. Right now, it is not a source of income as I only just started. But that is my goal. I will always be up front about that. I would absolutely love for this blog to help us relax a bit more when it comes to saving money, especially with the goal of buying our own home sooner rather than later.
Well, those are the 5 questions I chose to answer here! Head over to my Patreon account and join the family to see 5 more (juicy) questions about Natural Family Planning (birth control), my views and experience surrounding breastfeeding, and several more. If you have any one on one questions, check me out at KoFi. I’m giving my all to this blog and my overall business as The Blessed Homemaker UK and I would love to have your support across any platform!