Okay, let’s start with moving past the fact that you will never make every meal perfectly organic, gluten-free and homemade. Some days, your kids are going to eat cereal for breakfast instead of oatmeal or eggs and some nights they might have chicken nuggets and an apple for dinner. Some days your kiddos are going to watch way too much TV because you need to get a million things done that you’ve put off all week. It’s OK. The kids will be fine and you, tired mama, will feel much better because you finally can put those check marks on your always growing to-do list.
Life is a million tiny ups and million tiny downs. It’s our job to navigate the waters and find the balance best we can. Sometimes that means whole foods, nutritious meals, and sometimes that means a walk outside to the nearest take away and guess what, that’s okay. Life is all about balance, without balance, we would always be leaning one direction or the other and eventually just fall down.
I remember before I became a Mama, I would see other Mamas some with 3 or 4 kids or more and I just remember thinking, “Wow you’re a superhero. How in the world do you do it?” I actually asked this question to one of those Mamas who I went to church with when I was growing up. She answered with “Jesus and coffee.”
Well, I sure as heck can relate to that now.
I wanted to write this post just in case you are finding yourself having one of those days, you know, those days where you want to pull your hair out or bang your head on a wall. Yeah, those days… for those days, I wanted to share my 5 easy ways to help you mosey on through your “bad mama” day. This day will pass, you will love your babies and they will love you. You will get through this.
- Take a shower! Seriously, this is one of my favorite things to do if the kiddos nap at the same time. It’s 3pm and I actually just got out of the shower, had a good stretch while cleaning the living room a bit and wrapped up filming for today’s vlog! My first vlog 🙂 you should go check it out. Wink, wink 😉 . Really though, it feels wonderful to have a fresh clean body. It really does wonders for your body and soul.
- Schedule “me time” even if it’s after the kids go to bed. Take time for you and do something you enjoy doing. The dishes need washing but it’s your least favorite thing to do? Don’t do it! Go read, draw, paint your nails, play a card game with your hubby (if you can wrangle him into it) or watch your favorite show. Do something that is going to make you happy, maybe even make you laugh!
- Light some candles. I LOVE having candles lit throughout the house. Especially the rooms we use the most. Bathroom, kitchen and living/dining area. Candles are so cozy and homey and they just make you feel those flurries down deep inside that just brings joy. Enjoy the candles.
- Get outside! Getting outside is one of the best things you can do! The kids can run and play and you get some clarity gifted by God through the sunshine, breeze, and/or seeing your babes run. Life is precious and all the moments your are going through right now will soon be over. Good and bad. It all passes. So cling to the good stuff and let the bad stuff go. Breathe in the fresh air, sit on your porch for a bit, drink some tea. Just let your mind relax a little bit.
- Cook (or Bake) something! I know I always feel better when I take a handful of ingredients and cook or bake something that my family loves and enjoys. Especially during the holidays, there’s just something about homemade goodies that feels like home. It’s a great stress reliever for me too.
You are doing great Mama. Don’t ever forget that. I feel like we don’t hear it enough from the people around us in our everyday life. Words do mean something, especially when they’re reassuring you that you are doing a great job. None of us knew exactly how to do this when we started, heck I definitely wonder if I’m doing what I should be doing as a Mama and I’m two years into parenting. We all need to take a step back sometimes and focus on ourselves, and that is OK! You can’t pour from an empty cup. Remember that.