Ten-Ten-Twenty-Twenty I’ll just leave that there for ya. It made me smile! HAHA.
I get the question a lot about if we’re trying for a third baby, if not then how are we preventing it. It’s quite interesting how many people think they are privy to that kind of marital information. However, I am not one to shy away from a conversation so I don’t mind all that much. I shared this over on my Patreon page about two weeks ago for anyone who supports me over there. So, I thought it was about time for me to share my answer over here as well. I know a lot of women out there wonder about Family Planning and are curious as to what it is exactly. I hope this post will give you and your family a bit of insight into the facts surrounding “the pill” for birth control and show you how Family Planning may work for you.
Family Planning is a natural way to go about birth control. It involves tracking your cycle and knowing when you are ovulating. In order to do this effectively you must be in tune with your own body and it is almost a must that your period be somewhat regular. A couple of days might not make much of a difference, but if you’re off by more than 4 days every month then it is possible that the Family Planning method may not work for you.
I am in no way a doctor or in any position to be giving you medical advice, but this plan is working for us so far. I must say that I am 100% Pro Life and I believe that every child is a blessing and a gift from God. So, if we were to get pregnant while following this plan of preventing pregnancy then so be it. If that were to happen, then God must want us to have more little loves and He will show us how to provide for them. With God anything and everything is possible.
There are many reasons why we’re choosing the Family Planning route. I started the birth control pill several months ago and, after almost 3 years of not being on any kind of birth control, it affected me very negatively. First of all, my emotions were absolutely all over the place. Way out of the norm, I was crying at the drop of a hat over silly little nothings or on the flip side, I could fly off the handle and become irritated and overreact in an instant. It was getting so bad that sometimes I wasn’t even sure what I was feeling and THAT would tick me off so bad I would just snap. I hated who I was when that pill was messing with me. And I was bloated all the time which really made me feel crappy. So bloated that some days my normal everyday tennis shoes wouldn’t even fit properly and I’d have to reset the laces on my shoes! My face was breaking out very bad with this last dose of the pill I was on, I don’t usually have breakouts at all unless maybe one little bump or so during my period.
This was bad. It took about 2 weeks after I quit the pill for my face to clear up!
Whew, and if all that isn’t enough, the morality surrounding what the pill actually does really, really, really started getting to me. It honestly never use to bother me. You get married, you don’t want to get pregnant straight away, you go on the pill. End of story. But the more I read about birth control, the more I listened to what others who follow Family Planning had to say, and the more I listened to my own body, the more I just felt a tug in my gut that being on that pill just wasn’t the way I wanted to live my life.
In a nutshell, this is what that pill does. It quite literally STOPS your body from doing what it was designed to do. Our bodies were made to get pregnant and have babies. I’m not saying that it’s easy for everyone, I am not naive and I know that there are people who rely on alternative ways to get pregnant or even adoption and so on. But for the majority of women, our bodies ovulate every month and if we are sexually active then our egg will meet up with a sperm and a baby will be made. A man’s sperm can live inside a woman for 4-5 days. A woman’s egg will only be “alive” for about 12-24 hours. That is the window in which a baby can be made. Now, back to the pill. In order for this window to never occur, the pill stops a woman completely from ovulating. Therefore no egg is released AT ALL. Which also means that the pill stops the woman from having an actual period. The pill causes the lining of a woman’s uterus to thin out to the point that it becomes inhospitable to a fertilized egg. During the week of the placebo pill, the woman’s body gets the message that its time to shed that lining and therefore she will bleed for a few days. This is not an actual menstrual period as there is no actual egg being released.
Basically “the pill” and other forms of unnatural birth control all mess with the natural process of what our bodies are mean’t to do and what God created our bodies to do. Whew!
I know that I kind of went off on a tangent there for a minute but I hope this answers that question and our reasoning behind it. If you are tired of what the pill is doing to your body or if you have experience with Family Planning then please don’t hesitate to reach out to me! I’m also active on Instagram!
Thanks so much for being here and being interested in what I’ve got to say.