My dear, sweet boy.
We just spent some much needed one on one time together since your sister slept for about 3 hours. You let me read to you, cuddle you, and rock you to sleep, where I then held you for about half an hour until my arm went so numb that it started to tingle. This time with you was most definitely one of the highlights of my week. Thank you for being my little boy, my little baby, if only for an hour today. It was my favorite hour and we needed it, I needed it.
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Something has been on my mind a little bit this afternoon. We had some friends visit earlier, and by friends, I mean a really nice lady we met yesterday and two of her little girls! It was a nice time. However, if you have a toddler, then you know, one minute they are the sweetest kid in the world and the next they’re snatching, throwing, and pitching a fit. Well, we experienced a little of all that today from each child it seems.
My son has not really ever been around other kids. We’ve moved a good bit since he was born, and besides a handful of church nursery days and his tiny baby sister, he has not really had an opportunity to interact with other kids at all.
Today, I was not entirely happy with his actions. A feeling I believe some of you can probably relate to. More often than not, my son will share the toys he is playing with or the ones that are out for the kids like in a nursery setting. I have seen him walk over and put the toy he was playing with in another kids hands just to make sure they know they can play with it too. Today, this was not the case. Today, he pitched a fit when those nice little girls wanted to play with his toys. Instead of playing with these little girls, I noticed that my son spent most of his time trying to get his toys back from them.
If they were running, laughing or actually playing together then all seemed fine, but if one of his toys or books ended up in the little girls hands, it was his mission to get it back. I’m not entirely sure why this was, other than the obvious, he just hasn’t ever had to share his toys before. He’s always just been so social when we go out to the park, or when he was in nursery back in America, I didn’t expect this time to be so different. But this was the first time other children were in his space. So maybe that’s why.
Does anyone out there have kiddos who sometimes act this way?
How do you handle it?
Do you discipline in front of others?
Do you make your child share their toys?
Do you come up with an excuse to try and explain their actions?
I kind of found myself scrambling for an explanation but all I could think of was, “Why is he acting like this? He never acts like this.” But then, he’d never been in this situation either. We don’t really have friends here in the UK, so not only was there new people in what he now feels like is his home but the new people were other children and they were playing with his things. Do I try to distract him with something else or do I say “You have to learn to share, you are not being very nice.” And make him share?
Is it normal, for a child of barely two who hasn’t been around kids much, to act so territorial when it comes to his/her toys or even snacks at snack time? Where every child has their own share but your kid goes and tries to get evereyone elses snack, neverminding what’s sitting in front of him.
I have never been in this situation before either, so if that mama who came over today happens to stumble upon this post since she knows I’m a blogger, thank you for being gracious with me today. I’d hate to think that anything that happened left a bad taste in your mouth about us. We enjoyed the time with another young family and hope that things will be a bit smoother next time we have company.
Till next time,