Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are older, they will not turn from it.
I have really been struggling lately with my toddler. Boy will be 2 years old towards the end of October and he is such a joy about 90% of the time. But y’all, that 10% is getting to me lately and I hate myself for it. I have no idea how Michelle Duggar does it. I listened to an interview with her from ages ago and some of the things she talks about just seem impossible but she claims she does this from the time her kids are tiny. I have tried, over and over and over. I will continue to try. To pray fiercely for grace and patience because I need it. Y’all, I am not perfect and I never claim to be. I am real Wife and a real Mama and I have real struggles daily and this morning I just felt like I needed to get that “on paper”.
Please, don’t hate. Every child, young or old, goes through something during their life and just because she had one son who screwed up majorly when he was younger, and the media found the information and dragged the family through the dirt, and that same son screwed up royally AGAIN by “allegedly” cheating on his wife (and in the media’s eye no less) doesn’t make Mrs. Duggar a bad mom in any way, shape or form. Children make their own choices, even if they know those choices are wrong.
That being said, I personally like her and for the most part and I like how she and JB raised their family. I do not see myself with even close to 19 kids, if these two babes are it for me then I am twice as blessed as many out there so I am happy. If He chooses to bless us with more then I will be all the happier. We are a Christian family and I do try to implement those teachings and character traits in our every day life.
So without further ado, here is some of what she had to say in the interview.
First Time Obedience
“Slowbedience is Disobedience”
“The first time I say it, you obey it.” Mrs. Duggar said that her young children can even say this line with her. That she does not have to ask over and over again because her children were trained to understand that by doing what she asks, her children are honoring her. Which is one of the ten commandments, honor thy father and mother.
The four points of Obedience
- Instant – First Time, no counting, no multiple chances. TRAIN- It will take time
- Cheerful – “Yes mam” I will obey you!/I’d be happy to. No bad attitudes. (Yes Mam Chart)
- Thorough – Do it to the best of their ability.
- Unconditional – Always do as Mommy or Daddy asks, not IF you want to.
Parents, praise your children for good behavior. Discipline them when they don’t. Work with your children, have them practice being still for a few minutes at a time. Whether that’s sitting down and looking at a book or playing with a certain toy. Get them to focus. Allow the kids into the kitchen every now again, (I assume when the are a little bit older, like 4 or 5) they can do small things to help and it will make them feel so special and important.
Train your children in the ways of the Lord. Including honoring their Father and Mother and Elders. Their older siblings are their elders! If the older ones in the Duggar family asks the younger ones to do something, they know to do it. They use what they call a buddy system where one older child will have two or three younger children that they kind of look after and help with daily tasks.
Discipline – Disciple(ing) them along.
The information I have shared here is just a handful of advice from the interview. I have a 22 month old and a 6 month old so I just couldn’t get it all written down! But, I did hyperlink the interview where I found it on YouTube towards the beginning of this post. Hope this helps y’all in one way or another.